iLoveYou 1.0 iSeeYou 2.0

Imagine, if someone you cared about, came up to you, looked into your eyes and said, “I See You” and just stood there? (did you feel that odd ‘pause’ in the air?) I wonder, could this be the “new” way to say, “I love you?”
What is “Love” anyways? Merriam-Webster defines the word as: 1 a (1): (a) strong affection for another rising out of kinship or personal ties. The long list of definitions continue, until somewhere near the bottom, it describes “Love” as: a score of zero (as in tennis).
My question is this: is “I love you” enough? Sadly, it’s teetering on the brink of becoming a cliché. Think about when you hang up the phone, “love ya” or when you are leaving a relative’s house, “I love you” or “love you, too.” Do you REALLY mean it or are you just saying good-bye? (Yes, I do know that you “love” that person, but are you substituting “love you” for good-bye?)

In today’s world, the “human touch” seems almost lost in the chaos of daily life.
I sat at an intersection and watched cars as they drove by. One out of three drivers or passengers were on a cell phone. Kids, more often than not, were also on some sort of device or appeared to be watching videos on the vehicle’s entertainment center. Nobody seemed to be talking.
Have you been to a coffee shop lately, a restaurant or any place where people gather? So few are actually speaking with the person sitting across from them.
Family night? Are we all watching the same thing or are we just in the same room together, each on their phone?
It’s easy, when we’re at a restaurant and “playing” on our phones, to pause and throw an “I love you” across the table; guilt assuaged.
Unfortunately, it’s just not enough to say “I love you” anymore. We need to “see” each other, to recognize the existence of the person standing next to you.
With all of today’s distractions and chaos, if you really want to show someone the love, look them in the eyes and say,
“I See You”

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It’s time to “own” yesterday…

In the early 1900’s, George Santayana wrote, “Those who cannot remember the past are condemned to repeat it.” This aphorism is, arguably, one of the most important sentences ever written. It reminds us that history has an ugly habit of repeating itself.

Today, we appear hellbent on removing anything from our history that might be offensive or insulting. Our society has gone to great lengths to either ban or demonize examples of the Civil War, the Swastika, Communism, KKK and the like.

We have also banned “offensive” words and ideas, labeling them as “hate speech.” The media has made sure that every unpopular utterance faces the court of public opinion and then it forms a panel to debate the results.

We are “sanitizing” ourselves to death; literally.

These words, statues, monuments and groups represent our past; good, bad whatever. The emotions that they evoke are different for each viewer, ranging from indifferent to horrified. Whether we like it or not; It’s us.

We need to stop hiding from these “symbols” and embrace the lesson. Yes, I said embrace. We should replace the objects that were taken down and talk about them with our children.

They need to see and hear ALL of the details of the civil war, of slavery and victory; everything. If a Klan rally is nearby, they should see that too. The speakers, the hoods and the protesters.

Show the children the face of evil and what it sounds like. Let them hear the bygone words of those that supported slavery as well as those who stood opposed. Let them see and hear the voices of hate spoken by today’s members of white pride. Let them hear the sounds of wisdom and peace in the soothing words of Martin Luther King.

When we remove a monument, silence a dissenter or sanitize the details of our past, we are depriving our children of history’s crucial lessons. In addition, we are also failing to adequately prepare them for an uncertain future.

Our children must be shown the whole truth, including all of it’s ugliness. History has exacted a high price from humanity in hopes that future generations may benefit from the painful lessons learned.